Jermelle Simon'S Bold Journey: Life Beyond 'The Upshaws'

The Role That Changed Everything

When actors talk about transformative roles, they're usually referring to gigs that elevate them to new career heights. For Jermelle Simon, playing Bernard "Benny" Upshaw Jr. in "The Upshaws" was just that. But more than career success, it was Bernard's evolution from a closeted to an openly gay character that deeply resonated with Simon, prompting a profound personal journey.

“What helped me to come out myself was, year after year, Bernard just kept growing,” Simon shared. "It felt like in the beginning we were on the same playing field. We were both struggling. And then he came out, and I'm like, 'Bro, whoa, whoa, I'm not [ready], hold on,' and he just kept going."

Over five rollercoaster seasons, audiences watched Bernard repair family ties, embrace fatherhood, and navigate the complexities of dating and entrepreneurship. Now, with the Netflix show wrapping up, Simon is reflecting on his character's journey and his own life, having recently revealed his relationship with digital storyteller Obio Jones.

A New Chapter Begins

Simon’s journey to becoming his true self wasn't just onscreen. Offscreen, he made waves by coming out on National Coming Out Day in 2024. His personal life, much like his character’s, has become a testament to authenticity and bravery. "That was the first moment where I realized, this is really freeing, and there's no limit to how far I can go," Simon remarked, acknowledging the weight of living authentically.

Behind the scenes, Simon’s journey began in Florence, South Carolina, before moving to Virginia, where he rediscovered his passion for acting. Despite early struggles, including working various jobs while raising his children, he eventually found his way to Los Angeles, where he would land his breakthrough role.

Looking to the Future

With "The Upshaws" behind him, Simon is eager to explore new opportunities that challenge both him and the audiences he hopes to inspire. He has ambitions to return to the stage and dive into film, seeking roles that offer both artistic satisfaction and the chance for personal impact. "I want to truly put Bernard to rest and not be seen as 'The Upshaws guy,'" he admitted, hinting at a future filled with diverse and dramatic roles.

As Simon closes the book on this chapter, he reflects on the show's legacy and the lasting connections formed on set. The final day of shooting was bittersweet, marked by a personal loss but also by the unwavering support of his co-stars, reinforcing the sense of family forged through shared storytelling.